Thursday, 30 August 2007


With gloabalisation taking over the world today, I often get asked a very difficult question "Where are you from?" Tricky question that one because I often don't know what to say. Is the person asking me where I live? Where I was born? Where my citizenship lies? Or even where my parents hail from? Usually I just say I'm Nigerian and let it end there.

Of course, it gets narrowed down when I'm asked by my fellow Nigerians, "You don't have an accent, where are you from?" Or even "I can't tell whether you are Yoruba or Igala, which one are you?" Hmmm, they must've judged by my veil.

My father's definitely Hausa, from the most ancient ruling Hausa family, in the most ancient Hausa Emirate. My mum is definitey Fulani, from a former ruling Sarkin Fulani family in the same ancient Emirate. But being born in the Garden city of Port Harcourt and having a birth certificate that makes me an indigene of Rivers state complicates matters for me!

To make it worse, for a large chunk of my life (specifically, 16 years) I lived in Warri. Some 5 years in those 16 years were spent at boarding school in Benin. Now it's back to Port Harcourt! the past two years have been fun even though PH is turning into something else *sigh*. My Parents took it upon themselves to take us to Daura at least twice a year, especially for Eid (Sallah) because there's the Durbar that we all loved, to see my dear grannies and of course, to prevent my uncles and aunties from making noise about us not being "Brought up Traditionally".

We always looked forward to these visits although it was obvious that we (especially me, Miss Prim-and-proper) didn't quite fit in. I've got two wonderful granmums. My dad's mum being a wise woman (Who taught me how to put Man-Shanu on my hair and henna up to my knees!) and my mum's mum being the funniest person I've ever met (She's half deaf and hears things a bit differently from what is actually said). Then there are the wonderful people that are just so happy and don't have a single worry in the world. Being around such positive people is just refreshing you need to see it to believe it. I just love that place so much!

Being the silent but mischvievious one, I like to annoy my Aunties with my little annoying habits and comments. You should've seen the looks on their faces when I said i'd rather eat Starch and Banga soup than Tuwo and Miyar Kuka. Or even when I said when I get married, I don't want to wear the family Al~ Kyabba (this huge hooded cloak with some HEAVY embroidery on it!) when I leave my parents home ..Hehe... Of course I have changed now but some of my aunties still suggest to my parents to let me stay at their place so I can get some "Training" I wonder which kind of training it is...Hehe. I think I know all I need to know, Thank you very much.

The good thing about being from everywhere was that I got to Naija-trot. Living in one extreme and travelling to the other. Those days we used to make it in two trips or just one 18 hr drive!
What I love the most about being from everywhere is that you learn real tolerance. Life is not the same at all. You really learn to appreciate the beauty of other people's culture while trying to discover and hold onto ours. If you are from the south I urge you to visit the north then you'll know what I'm talking about. Nigeria is so diverse It's almost like I'm living a double life. We used to joke that once we crossed the Murtala Muhammad bridge in Lokoja we have entered another Dimension.

People never understand when I say I AM a confused child. This is just one of the many many complications in my life. I can't wait to see the reaction of my extended family when they find out that my man is not Royalty and definitely not from Daura or even Katsina state...Hehe...Fun times...NOT!

Saturday, 25 August 2007

The Maryam Hiyana Scandal

I'm pretty sure by now everyone has heard all da noise about the Hausa actress and her lover accidentally letting a raunchy video clip that wasn't meant to be seen by many slip...*sigh* Usually I try to keep my distance from such stories. You can find detailed info on Bahaushe mai Ban Haushi and Abubuwan da nake tunani. (Available both in Hausa and English.)

Well I can't really say much on the issue since I only read about it from online news and blogs. Times like these i wish I was back home where I can see people's reactions face to face...I have learnt not to trust international media.

To be honest, I'm not sure if I'm more disgusted by the culprits' action or by people's reaction to it. People are just impossibe.

My Thoughts

(a) Poor Maryam. Apparently she verbally didn't give her consent. She told him not to video it but he went ahead to do it.

(b) Poor Hausa Movie Industry. I can't count the number of times I have had to support them. People think they spread immorality. I always try to tell peole not to blame the actors but the changing society for all the goss you read about in Mags. I'm running out of ways to support them now since one of the actresses has been caught doing one of the acts they have been stereotyped to be engaged in. I'm afraid saying many positive things may be blindly running away from the bitter truth...


My Anger

(a) People have the guts to say the public is "over reacting". Huh? Over reacting? Really? This is a society where public display of affection is frowned upon. This kind of behaviour is totally unacceptable to many and I'm pretty sure they knew that before doing something this stupid. The way people reacted can totally be justified.

(b) I know people fornicate, it can't be stopped. Muslim society or not. But to actually capture it and expect it not to be spread around? That's just pushing your luck. Clearly they were looking for trouble.

(c) People have the guts to open their stinking Oral Orifices to say that it's "the girls fault for letting herself get caught up in this mess". ARE YOU KIDDING ME? How many people did you see in the clip? Ehn? One or two? So why the hell is it HER fault? Didn't she clearly not give her consent? Hello! two of them were engaged in the act! I think they were both at fault. If anybody should be blamed here it is THE OWNER OF THE DAMN CAMERA PHONE! Who in this case happens to be the boy or should I say man! (Did I mention he was married? Yup. M.A.R.R.I.E.D His wife left him though (Good on her!))

(d) Some people who have no idea what Islam is about, have never been or lived in Kano before and probably don't have the slightest clue about the northerners' lifestyle are using this as a case study to (mis)judge Muslims! Personally, I don't commend the act by Maryam and Bobo. But I have learnt not to impose my beliefs on other people. So please, respect yourselves and don't use this as an excuse to unleash the hatred you harbour for Muslims! Thanks to others who kept an open mind on this issue.

(e) Most of my favorite actors and actresses have now been banned for the length of 12 months for immoral behaviour. Fair enough. I mean, Nollywood does that too doesn't it? Wasn't Ini Edo recently banned from acting for immoral behaviour? So yeah, nothing new...


My Joy

(a) I'm actually glad that this happened because now the Hausa film industry can undergo a much needed reform. And when everything is cleared, Zahratique promises to still remain a loyal fan! I'm going to miss the films...but I will prefer it goes through a reform...

(b) I'm glad people didn't go ahead to start fight (I know my naija people o!) any small thing would lead to rikici. I'm happy most of the brouhaha is being passed on paper. You can't go wrong with paper...(except of course, if you shove it down someone elses mouth which I don't condone :)
(c) So far (or a far as I have read) no charges have been laid against Maryam Hiyana and Bobo and I doubt if any would be in the future. I think the public embarrassment is way too harsh as it is plus Maryam has been banned from acting for 5 years....( I doubt if she'd ever return to acting though).

*sigh* I'm so glad I let that out!

Tuesday, 21 August 2007

Does it really matter?

Went out to dinner with a few girlfriends earlier tonight and i couldn't help but notice one of them, paid a little too much attention on the waiter serving us. As frequent customers we usually see him around and commend him on how much nicer than the other waiters and waitresses he was. Anyway, today she went on and on about this guy - his age, his life, his height, how he could pass as Justin's brother...and a whole lot more. This new obsession prompted me to ask her.

Me: Hey, Do you like this dude?

Friend 1: No, I don't. Why? *she sounded really defensive, as if it was a crime*

Me: You seem to have been talking about him eversince we came.

Friend 2: Yeah Thats true.

Friend 1: I mean, he is nice but you him? not sure.

Friend 2: Yeah, I can never date someone like him

Friend 1: Me too.

Me: *confused* You spent 10 good minutes talking about how great he is and now what?

Friend 2: He's not my type, I can't date a waiter, never!

Friend 1: Me too! No way man. I have class.

Do you know these girls didn't see anything wrong with their comments? They spoke as a matter of fact that they were better than he was because they weren't taking orders and collecting dishes.

You should have seen the look on their faces when I said there's was nothing wrong with dating a waiter.And as usual, they turned the conversation into another "You are not like us, you are a good girl" type of conversation; like they always do when they know i'm ready to give them a lecture on morality and political correctness.

Was I over reacting for thinking thier comments were horrible? What's wrong with dating a waiter? Isn't he a human being too?

It's times like these that I wonder why i'm even friends with people like these. What if (God forbid) one day they wake up and lose all the money they have right now and have to become waitresses for a living? How would they feel when people don't want to date them because of petty things like that?

Does money really make one a better person? I don't think so. There are good rich men and equally good poor men. Money is the most superficial abstract object that controls the world these days. It's really sad that people cannot see beyond things like wallets and social status. These comments were coming from girls that had considerably well-to-do families and are currently studying good courses at uni meaning one day, they'd have good paying jobs to provide a satisfactory way of life. Does that extra luxury really count?

Money certainly doesn't guarantee happiness... I really dont see anything wrong with dating someone that earns less than you. To me, there is more to wealth than something as common as money. Would you actually trade in riches for happiness?

Monday, 20 August 2007

Ah what a fine day....

Why am I not crying yet? Everything has been messed up today I just don’t understand. I’m having one of those days that nothing goes right. From the headache I have from only 3 hours of sleep from yesterday to the agonising filamentous outgrowth of protein on our skull called hair, it’s like everything just planned to gang up against me today. To add in salt to injury..

(1) My beau and I fought:
Right, I may be a dreamer and an optimist but I am neither stupid nor naïve. I won’t be manipulated and I don’t fall for empty talk! Long distance relationships are draining, I tell you. It’s like wind to fire – It will either rekindle a strong fire or blow out a weak one…

I hate it when I’m the one that always points out flaws in our r/ship but how loud do I have to scream it before it is etched in his brain? I NEED YOUR ATTENTION WHETHER YOU ARE HERE OR NOT! Get da wax outta your ears and listen to me; you can’t treat me like a queen for so long and then suddenly pay less attention to me!

Of course when I bring something like this up the whole "Do you doubt my trust" lecture comes up. That's not the point! Seriously, I don’t understand…what does a sister have to do to get some attention huh? *hisss*

(2) Disappearing acts: I hear about this from people but today, it has happened to me. The project report I have been working on all week mysteriously disappeared from my USB.

How that happened, I have no clue. But da good thing is I still have my data but can I finish? This report is due tomorrow….*dies*…11% of my grade is not a joke! …..*resurrects 5 minutes later and starts typing at the speed of sound*....I’m about three quarters through it now but I am having an allnighter…Thank God for Redbull…

I had a great weekend only for it to end up like this. I’m so used to being da number 1 priority and now he’s job hunting… I know I’ll get over it soon but still…. *sigh* I could use some retail therapy right now…Anyways I better get back to that report. I don’t want to disappoint my supervisor, he told me he had hope in me…*pressure* *p.r.e.s.s.u.r.e*

Thursday, 16 August 2007

Make Way...Coming thru

Hey There! Welcome to my blog!!! I would've posted an introductory post ages ago but being the very busy woman that I am, what better way to start a blog than one of those meme things, huh? One word answers, here it goes...

1. Yourself: Cheerful + Witty

2. Your partner: Caring

3. Your hair: Wahala!

4. Your mother: SuperWoman

5. Your father: Wiseman

6. Your favorite item: iPod + Phone

7. Your dream last night: I dont dream...often

8. Your favorite drink: Bubble T + Coke

9. Your dream car: VW Bug

10. The room you are in: Warm

11. Your ex: Immature

12. Your fear: Hellfire

13. What you want to be in 10 years: Happy Mum

14. Who you hung out with last night: Myself

15. What you're not: Arrogant

16. Muffins: Alright

17: One of your wish list items: Apple Mac notebook

18: Time: Precious

19. The last thing you did: Eat

20. What you are wearing: Jeans + Tee

21. Your favorite weather: Spring + Autumn

22. Your favorite book: Qur'an + Harry Potter + Many Danielle Steel books

23. The last thing you ate: Vegies

24. Your life: Content

25. Your mood: Calm...indidfferent

26. Your best friend: Myself :)

27. What you're thinking about right now: I don't wanna go to class!

28. Your car: Don't have, wanna buy me one? ;)

29. What you are doing at the moment: u mean u don't know?

30. Your summer: Vacation!

31. Your relationship status: indirectly engaged :)

32. What is on your TV: Don't have a TV either!

33. What is the weather like: Cold + Windy

34. When was the last time you laughed: 20 mins ago...

So that's it, Zahratique in a nutshell. Incase I didn't mention it, I'm one hell of a DramaQueen! SO that means I have a high tendency to blow things a bit out of proportion... Anyways, I'm loving the Nigerian Community of Blogger. Very interesting personalities....I am here to join in on the madness :)

Have a nice day!